Pregnancy Update and Other Thoughts

Assalamu alaikum/greetings, I’d not planned for this blog to turn

into a pregnancy/baby update blog, but I suppose, as this is the

dominant thing in my life right now, the blog will probably be going

in that direction just because of that reason alone. Although I

don’t plan on boring people too much with pregnancy, parenting,

and babies lol. But anyway…

My next doctor’s appointment is next week, Inshallah. I’m hoping

this diet that I’ve had to follow for gestational diabetes is working

and that my blood sugar is OK. And that of course, Inshallah, that

everything else is going OK too.

Two “pregnancy symptoms” that I’d not yet experienced and that I

just have experienced this week are the infamous leg cramps,

which I got this morning when trying to stretch my legs, and the

also-infamous bladder pressure, which is starting to make me

think I need to invest in some Depends undergarments or


Baby is still finding new places to kick me, not only in the bladder,

but also in the ribs as well, and this week is the first time he’s

done that too. As “the book” says, he seems to be getting bigger,

and his movements can be quite “uncomfortable” for lack of a

better word. I’m starting to find that, as so many women have

before me, pillows and cushions can be your best friend lol.

A couple of things that have me on the defensive, though, are my

“readiness” or lack of it, for the new baby, and whether or not I

will be partaking in any form of pain management during my labor

and delivery.

Regarding the “readiness” part of it, I’ve either been asked if I’m

ready or told, in a what seems to me to be a rather patronizing and

condescending tone that “I’d better hurry up and get ready”. My

reaction is kinda along the lines of “hey you can’t expect me to be

as quickly ready as say someone who found out they were

pregnant at 10 or 12 weeks or so”, and “it’s not like he’s coming

tomorrow”, I mean, maybe he might be, but I don’t think so, and in

any case, I’m just not feeling up to rushing around and buying

things before they’re needed.

I won’t be setting up a room/nursery for him right away, as he’ll be

sleeping in my room for at least the foreseeable future after he’s

born, and I’ve got plenty of places in my room to put his things,

i.e., clothes, diapers, wipes, etc. And besides, just like for myself,

I don’t like a lot of clutter, I like having just enough of what I need,

I’m not the kind of person who has boxes of shoes I’ve never

worn, or closets full of clothes that I’ve never worn. I have a few

outfits, some for work, some for walking, some for working in the

yard, I have a pair of work shoes, “taking the dog outside shoes”,

and walking shoes. I have my “nice scarves” and my “I’m just

running outside” scarves. And I think you get the picture. I’m a

simple person. I don’t want to be extravagant all of a sudden just

because a baby is on the way and in any case, I don’t think he’s

gonna care what kinda stuff he has as long as he’s fed, changed,

comfortable, etc.

And on to the “pain management” part. Suffice it to say that I’d

like to try labor and delivery with no meds, if I can. And you’d not

believe some of the reactions I’ve gotten. Which seem to me to

be somewhere along the lines of “hey you don’t really know what

your talking about” and/or “it’s the worst pain you’ve ever felt how

could you not want any meds”. Firstly, I’ve never had a child

before, so I don’t think I could 100% say that I’d not want that

epidural when the contractions are coming thick and fast, but what I can say is that if I can help it I’d not like any meds. Because to put it simply, to me there’s a big difference between giving birth and having a toothache, and I’d like to have as active of a part in delivering my baby as I can, any problems notwithstanding. And if I try to explain why I’d not want any pain meds, because I feel like since I can’t see what is going on, I’d at least like to feel it, I don’t think most people would understand anyway.

But I’m just surprised at how, how do I put it, “interesting” people’s reactions can be when you are not as ready for your baby to come as they think you should be, or your ideas about delivery and childbirth are different from theirs. And I’m starting to think that perhaps I should just get used to it, because I’m sure these kinds of reactions probably are not going to stop once the baby comes.

But if it’s any consolation to anyone, I think me and my brain have finally come to the realization that I am actually pregnant, and that this is not going to be a dream that I’m going to wake up from, and that this is actually happening. And I’m starting to get excited. I’m starting to wonder what kind of baby I’m going to have, what kind of personality they will have, what they will grow up to be, what kind of food they’ll like, will they like animals, will they play sports, etc. And part of me wants him to wait and part of me just can’t wait. Oh yes, mixed feelings abound *smile*.

The odd thing is, I don’t think I’m scared of labor and delivery, a part of me kinda is, but when I think of it, I don’t want to go so far as to say it’s no big deal, but at the same time, it just feels, well, kinda “normal” for lack of a better way of putting it.

But then again, my mentality throughout this whole pregnancy, even before I knew I was pregnant, has been very calm, and patient, and just taking things as they come. And for the most part, aside from some worrying and misgivings once I actually found out, things have continued in that way, and I just don’t see things changing. I suppose I’ll probably take labor the same way I’ve handled the rest of the pregnancy, just being calm, cool and collected, Inshallah. And I guess if the pain does indeed get really bad, I can make the decision whether or not to partake of any relief.


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3 Responses to Pregnancy Update and Other Thoughts

  1. Jamilah says:

    Don”t worry> You don”t really need a lot of preparation in spite of what they try to sell you> In the beginning< especially for a summer baby Get lots of onesies because babies are good at dirtying them in various ways As far as sleeping arrangements It”s much easier when you”re breastfeeding> That”s something you should discuss with your husband> Whatever you decide
    If you can I took one before my first> Once I went into labor< I couldn"t remember all the breathing exercises My first took many hours First babies do take a while> I had minimal pain medication but giving birth is an amazing experience and you”ll want to be fully aware when it happens>
    One more thing> Is Chloe ready for the new addition? I know she”s well_trained You might talk with someone or check out some articles on this>
    Sometime next month you”ll need to pack your suitcase and have it ready to go for your trip to the hospital> As long as you have diapers and onesies then too insha Allah>
    (sorry for the weird characters> My keyboard and or laptop are acting up> It”s intermittent)

    • Ginny says:

      Assalamu alaikum, regarding Chloe, I’ve been doing a lot of thinking about that. I’ve thought about giving Leader Dog a call and asking them, though if memory serves, I think if I have my husband maybe bring something back from the hospital with the baby’s scent on it, and let her smell it, that should be fine. Not sure how comfortable I’d feel about letting her sniff the baby right off, but I think she’ll be fine. I imagine she’ll probably get pretty protective of us, and probably start watching everything he does lol. I’m sure they’ll be a “bonding process” or a “getting used to things” process, but I expect that.

  2. Ruqayyah says:

    Asalaam alaikum,
    These comments are my experience, neither meant to say “this is the way you should do it” or not, just a sharing, and that is what I found helpful during my pregnancies. With E I had an epidural, you can’t get one until you are 4 cm along anyway, so you will have some labor beforehand to kind of get a feel for things. With J I could not have an epidural because of my back surgery. The pain was bearable, but since J had died they were giving me other pain meds to keep my comfortable. The biggest pain came when J crowned, and I have heard that is the biggest pain, often referred to as “the ring of fire”.

    As far as dogs go, we had 3 dogs when Em was born. We sent home a blanket that Em had slept on her 2 nights in the hospital, had them smell it. I also spent some time holding and paying attention to a doll, but to be honest I don’t think they really cared about that. We let the dogs smell Em while I sat on the couch when I go home, after an initial smell, they really didn’t pay much attention to her, lol. And of course initially babies eat, sleep and poop, so the dogs don’t really get a whole lot of interaction anyway. Of course that may be different for Chloe, and I think it would be different for Allie now, as a pet relationship is different from a service dog relationship. Our dogs had been around several children of different ages, and I think that is probably the most helpful thing of all is that the dogs are exposed, have children touch them, etc.

    As I said these are just my experiences, take them or leave them. *smile*

    I do pray that your gestational diabetes is under good control and that you continue to have a safe pregnancy, labor, delivery, and a happy, healthy baby. Ameen.

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