Assalamu alaikum/greetings, a kind of a baby update, just to say we are doing fine. There are some issues, though, that I just don’t want to discuss in detail publicly. Suffice it to say that we’re doing a lot better than we were before, Alhamdulillah.
And all I can say is that I’m really feeling the “mommy guilt” right about now. Because I’m in a situation where I’ve had to supplement my son’s breastmilk with formula, and now that I’m back at work, I hardly have any time to pump any breastmilk for him. And he’s not able to nurse, again for a variety of reasons which I won’t get into here. what is probably going to end up happening is that we’re going to end up transitioning completely to formula and I really feel bad about this.
Because I’ve read so much about how breastmilk is best, about how the longer you nurse/give your baby breastmilk, the less likely they are to develop a myriad of diseases and conditions that I can’t remember all of right now. And I feel like if I stop giving him breastmilk, that he’ll get one of these diseases/conditions and then I’ll feel like it’ll have been my fault because I stopped nursing him at two months. And I’m just not sure what to do. Because my milk production has really dropped off, and even if it was as good as it was before, I simply don’t have time to sit and express milk every two or so hours like I did before. That is of course if I want to sleep, or clean the house, or just spend time with my baby.
I mean, if you ask me logically, the logical thing to do would be to pump as much as I can, even if he’s only getting a few ounces of breast milk a day, and if my milk supply dries up completely, to just move to all formula, especially as we’re having to supplement with formula anyway. However, I feel like I’ve failed somehow, firstly because I couldn’t nurse to begin with, and secondly now because I’m finding it increasingly difficult to continue to express breastmilk for him.
I want to do “the right thing” but what (exactly) is “the right thing”? Am I wrong if I decide to transition him to formula completely?